My Two Year Old Has Me Held hostage

She's taking Cookie Monster down too!

She’s taking Cookie Monster down too!

Well, not really, not in the technical sense. But by god it feels like it most days at the moment.

Before entering this motherhood caper I knew all about the “terrible twos”. I have a goddaughter, nieces and nephews, friends with children and I was a babysitter/nanny through my uni days – I am not a stranger to children and their myriad of behaviours. I’ve sat through and wrangled my way out of tantrums with the best of them. Before Sweet Pea was born I naively said to anyone who asked that I wasn’t worried about the practical elements of being a mum – I had this shit covered. Or so I thought. Turns out I’m the one being covered in shit (not literally. Yet.).

Since her birth Sweet Pea has been what is diplomatically referred to as a “strong willed child”. I will fight anyone who uses the term “difficult” or “hard” but some days with her definitely feel this way. She is about to turn two next week and she is entering this phase of her life with a bang – and screams – and meltdowns – and tantrums a plenty. This kid knows how to push the boundaries and cross that line. In the words of the character of Joey from one of my favourite episodes of “Friends”; “You’re so far past the line, the line is a dot to you!”.

I’m reading all the books, I’m listening to all the advice, I’m watching “Super Nanny” regularly but I’m putting up my hands in surrender at the moment. This kid has got it all over me and in an attempt to hold on to the last shreds of my sanity I am instigating the following survival techniques:

Tea! I have been tempted to lace it with vodka but hearing constant screaming with a hangover just doesn’t appeal so plain, hot cups of tea it is – and lots of them!

Time Out – I am so, so grateful for a supportive, understanding and present partner who has stepped in to enable me to have some well needed breaks over the past few weeks – I never realised how soothing grocery shopping by yourself could be!

– ReadingEarlier I wrote about how my reading time and mojo had escaped me of late but I have been working hard to get back into the swing of things – finding books that really interest me and making sure I at least read a few lines before bed each night.

– Enjoying the little moments – For all that she is driving me a little mad at the moment Sweet Pea is a gorgeous, funny, feisty little thing and I am trying to step back and remember that she is only two – and life can be hard when you are two!

What about you? Any other tips you can share for keeping the sanity in tough times?

5 Comments

5 Comments on My Two Year Old Has Me Held hostage

  1. Holly (2 Kids and Tired)
    July 29, 2014 at 6:13 am (3 years ago)

    So much of this sounds familiar. Mine are 13 and 16 now. Part of the toddler years is strategy, but honestly, part of it is just surviving. I think you’re doing all the right things. You have coping mechanisms in place, you have a supportive partner, which is huge, and you’re actively trying to parent and raise your child rather than just going through the motions. And the reading? I didn’t read nearly as much when mine were little as I do now. Truly, enjoy the good moments because you will turn around tomorrow and she will be a teenager and you will wonder where the time went.

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    • KAB18
      July 30, 2014 at 10:38 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Holly – you are so right, she is growing into a “big girl” before my very eyes and I don’t want to spend my days wishing away hers. It does help to know that other parents have and are going through similar things.

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  2. Sarah
    July 30, 2014 at 9:36 pm (3 years ago)

    I have a four year old and an almost two year old. My four year old was pretty easy but I have been tested many times with my almost two year old. I find that if I just think of it as a phase and remind myself that it will get better it is easier to deal with the tantrums. Enjoying the little moments is definitely important. They more than outweigh the bad moments. Hang in there. It will get better, well that’s what I keep telling myself anyway :)

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  3. KAB18
    July 30, 2014 at 10:39 pm (3 years ago)

    I try to keep telling myself that too Sarah! I have just gone two days in a row without any tantrums so maybe she read my post??!!

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  4. jeanie
    August 1, 2014 at 12:54 pm (3 years ago)

    We have one of those strong willed ones, too — only now he’s 26 and just was married. They do improve — trust me!

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